Written by Ashley Lopez

Hi everyone, welcome back to Ashley Spills. Ashley, here. You can check out my last post here. I have a question for you: How much are you worth to yourself? Think about your answer.

Keep thinking.

Okay, cool. Let’s roll.

If your answer was something like: “I’m worth everything,” then you’re on the right track; it’s so important to take care of yourself and be there for yourself. Whether you’re single, married, in a relationship, or have a family, you are still allowed to tell yourself that you are worth it.

Finding “it”

The important thing now is to find your “it.” Is it exercising and eating healthy? Working on your passion project? Giving yourself time to relax? Finally allowing yourself to watch a movie? Time alone? Once you establish your “it,” then you can work towards gifting yourself to be you and work on you.

Some of us may have someone to walk through life with and someone we can bare our soul to—that’s amazing. If you have a person to do this with, great! If you have someone you trust with your life, incredible! But, please don’t forget that, truly, you are your own best friend. No one knows you better than you.

There are times I need to slow down and check in with myself to make sure what I’m doing or working towards is something that is going to benefit me and make me happy. I have to make sure I’m satisfied with the direction I am going in because I love me and I am important, too. Often times it’s easy for me to get caught up and sucked into my fast, busy life, but lately I’ve been trying to leave a few nights and days open for me.

Make reflecting a priority

I make it a priority to reflect on my day, week, and month; sometimes I don’t always jot down my thoughts, but I do think about it every single day before I go to sleep. I like to know whether or not my day made me feel happy, excited, annoyed, stressed, sad, mad, productive, busy, etc. What I need to know is how and why I’m spending my time the way I am. Since I am my own best friend, I do this for myself.

This week I want to challenge you to think about how much time and effort you put into yourself. Give yourself time to cleanse and clarify your thoughts, actions, and goals. Make sure you are able to proudly say something along the lines of this: “Today I’m thankful because I did [ABC] for myself.”

No one knows how to check in with you except you because you cannot lie to yourself, no matter how hard you try.

On Wednesday, I’m going to share my struggles of caring for myself, and I don’t just mean self-care—I mean genuinely caring for my well-being and wanting to care for myself. Once I mastered this, I became my own best friend. Are you your best friend?

Thanks for reading, xo.

Other resources

Self-worth worksheets